Pros and Cons of Friends with Benefits for Young Adults
By Editorial Team on 2016-11-06
This article discusses the pros and cons of friends with benefits.
Sex without attachments is by far the best thing in university. I do not understand why people in university get into serious long term relationships. University is for having fun, and hopefully, studying. Also, you don’t have to worry about how the other person will feel if you do something. Sleep with someone? Who cares. Like your fries without ketchup? No one gives a sip. In a relationship, your significant half will care about every annoying and gross habit that you have. That one thing you do when you have dandruff and you scratch your scalp too much until it looks like your black sweater turned white? Yeah, your other half will tell you to stop that. Your friend with benefits partner would ignore it, or even better, wipe it off for you.
If you’re the type of gal or guy that likes to go straight to the action, then you’ll love a friends with benefits relationship. You don’t have to go on those cute romantic dates at a restaurant or museum, and it will save you money.
Also, let’s say you want to end this friends with benefits relationship. No problem, you friend will understand, and there will be no pesky emotions coming up after you break it off. You both can move on easily, and find some other friends with benefits. Try breaking off a relationship, that stuff hurts. You feel like a limb is missing for a long while, and you still have feelings for your ex no matter what you tell your friends when you’re sober. One of you probably wants closure, and you CANNOT break up via text. Need I say more?
If you are the type that gets very sentimental and attached to someone you are physically intimate with, then a friends with benefits is not for you. In fact, keep far away from such relationships, run away with dread and don’t look back. If you do get yourself into one, prepare yourself for the day if and when your friend doesn’t respond with the same emotions and wants to break it off. Prepare yourself for getting attached, asking if they want a relationship, and then receiving a sharp rejection in the face.
Also, if you care about what other people think, word will definitely get around that you are exclusively doing a friend with benefits relationship. If you don’t care about that, gossip won’t get to you. Unless you hang on to every word that your friends say to you, and you wonder what people think about you. If you’re the species of social butterfly who thinks, ‘what does so and so think of me?’, then a friends with benefits relationship isn’t for you. You’ll be too busy trying to tie down your anxiety issues.
I’m not sure if this applies as a negative, but is definitely something to consider if you want a friend with benefits relationship. Can you have more than one friend with benefits? If so, then should you let them know you have others? What if they get jealous, or aren’t fine with you having others? Personally, I wouldn’t advise having more than one friend with benefits just for your sexual health. You don’t know who people have been with, be safe kids.